SOMEDAY, SOMEONE’S GONNA RECOGNIZE…

… You. Yes, you! Man, I live in this world and I’m so not stunned by it and what it has to truly say. And, I love the world! I love the culture, makeup, fashion. I love it. But, when it comes to stripping down from all of this things, I don’t find my refuge and hope in it. Like, when you read all those magazines and the advice on how to get the guy, it just makes me mad. (Yes, the post is about boys. I know, I do this every next season. So, I guess this is the autumn one.) Why does it make me mad? Because you, girl, are not suppose to be getting anyone. Not in a way you don’t deserve it but in a way you should be considered and recognized as a whole person. In my opinion, girls should be won over and not the other way around. And no, that is not to be considered as speaking of girls as the untouchable beings rather precious ones. The problem is, most girls these days think so less of themselves. Honestly, they don’t think that great guy is ever gonna happen to them. It’s like, all that matters today is showing less of all that you are than the real you. I think the real you is your laugh, your dreams, aspirations (yes, I learned that word from The Sims), talents and your God given body which is sacred. On other hand, why to expect the real thing when you just keep searching someTHING everywhere?

Stop searching, stop over-analyzing and START being you! You know what? I’m 29 years old, single and never had a real boyfriend. And you know what? I am happy! Yes, there are days when I pity myself, thinking I’ll be an old maid with two ginger tabbies. Those moments I allow myself to be in. Let’s be real, our faith in ourselves (and God) is a roller-coaster. Eventually, those moments are gone. And you know why? Because I trust God and I know He wants to see me happy to be who I am. And you should, too! Your fulfillment doesn’t start when you meet someone and fall in love. It starts from the day you realize your worth, uniqueness, your specific way to be the person you are, capable of so many extraordinary things. Ask yourself, what if I remain single for the rest of my life? If you are called to a married life, the thought is scary. But, what if? Will the world stop spinning? Will you stop breathing, suddenly being incapable of doing your daily work or stop loving your dear ones? Your answer to that question is your answer on how you see your roll in this world. Be you! Live! Express your talents! Don’t worry if you are single now because, if you have  the wish to be married, God didn’t put it there for no reason. Therefore, why worry? Just don’t rush God. You know when you try to do things your way, it doesn’t work. You-just-know! You end up being miserable, every single time which expands the emotional void. Why searching for love in so many different places if you’re looking for the real thing? You think you are not worthy of a true, honorable man? You think you are destined to be stuck with a guy who only wants your body and neglects your soul? If you want a honorable man, make it noticeable! With the way you speak, dress and behave. It will chase all the wrong for you boys away. I promise! Just be the true you! No, I don’t mean turning into a stuck up, serious persona, acting above everyone else. Rather, dig out that you from you! Be the joy in the world. (You know what, I’m writing this with a face full of makeup. And you know what? No one has seen me with it, today. I just wear it around the house for the pure enjoyment and probably will take it down soon. And you know why? I am just being me!)

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And then, one fine day, maybe even toDAY, someone will recognize it. And you will recognize the same things in that someone. Yes, that guy might notice your pretty eyes before he notices your pretty soul but, the latter is what will make him truly see you completely. True love respects and protects. If you don’t feel safe and truly loved, he is not your man. If physical is what’s making him stay with you, he is not your man. Don’t fool yourself. Forget the magazines, forget Cosmopolitan‘s advice. You are so much more than that. The real man will want to protect you and not trial test you. Many of you might disagree with me but I, as always, speak from the heart. And if my words make even one girl think about it, the post is a straight on success! Just don’t give up, God will provide! He said so! May His blessing be with you always. Yes, a Star Wars thing, get it? Man, this explaining my own jokes business …

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    Gabriella

    November 5, 2014

    It’s sooo true! I agree with every sentence! (:

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      Ines

      November 5, 2014

      yay! :)))

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    Justin

    November 7, 2014

    Ines you are the only photographer I follow in Flickr. Your pictures always give me a warm feeling :-). Now I see that in addition your photographic talent, you are also thoughtful, intelligent and warm-hearted. That you’re single as well (!) is almost too much to believe! (sigh…)

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      Ines

      November 7, 2014

      Thank you so much :)) I don’t know why I’m single but God knows. :D I just go with the flow hoping for the super awesome turn of love events in my favor :D

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        Justin

        November 14, 2014

        I really don’t think you’ll have to wait too long. The world you create in the images you capture is so attractive I’m not sure how anyone could resist. Thanks for making and sharing them.

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          Ines

          November 15, 2014

          You speak too highly of me but, thanks :))

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    Charlotte

    January 16, 2015

    Hi Ines!
    For me as well you are the only photographer I follow on Flickr. I love your photos, and sometimes I also check this blog. It’s funny how I always come across these boys-themed entries when I seem to need them the most. I am in a similar situation, and I too have this reoccurring ‘I will die alone with 5 cats’ thought. Reading this post was so good – sometimes I need a little shake, to see that this ‘problem’ of mine is really not a problem. That this world is so much bigger, and I often make the mistake of having my head in a tiny little box.
    I loved this sentence: ‘Your fulfillment doesn’t start when you meet someone and fall in love.’ Man, so true! I need to write it somewhere, to see it every day, as a constant reminder! It’s such a small minded thing, to think the greatest accomplishment in life is/has to be finding a husband/wife.
    So the post is definitely a success ;) Thank you!

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      Ines

      January 17, 2015

      Yey! Thank God! He has a way of pointing out things that matter, out of the blue. Whether it’s a song or a post.
      It is ok to have moments of worry but never stay in them for too long. It happens to me daily! Hehe.

      Thank you for your support and I wish you to meet the most handsome soul ever in the shape of a boy ;))
      (apart from fulfilling your life in the most amazing way)

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    Henry Godnitz

    February 18, 2015

    Dear Ines,

    I think I must say something anent one little item of enormous importance: ‘Your fulfillment doesn’t start when you meet someone and fall in love.’ you posted.

    Ahem, I must say, verily, your fulfillment begins right there. IF, you’ve finally found the question God made you an answer for –in common parlance, ‘the right one’. For a person is never fulfilled until he finds himself IN the heart of the beloved. –And that’s where Satan has deceived the world: in telling us, people of the XXI Century, so high in reason and so low in Faith, that happiness is to be found inside ourselves: Never.

    Not meaning here to antagonise, or –God forbid!– depress you; it’s just one of those things that you see/read and you feel this urge to say something presently.

    On a side note, I chanced upon your Flickr profile, which brought me to this site of yours, and I feel compelled to commend you on your Faith. It’s refreshing to see photographers taking Jesus Our Lord seriously, and honouring Him with their cameras. We might have an abundance of photographic ‘masters’, yet we have a harrowing paucity of photographers who want to please God both with their craft as well as their personal lives. In a milieu when I have despaired, seeing so many colleagues shooting sinful images, we must thank God for you, and for the grace He gives you so that you don’t squander your Talents.

    Blessings to you from Jesus, Mary and Joseph!

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      Ines

      February 19, 2015

      Hey, Henry! Thank you for your comment, I agree with you 100%. I guess I accidentally dropped out God as girl’s “fulfillment in Him”. I wasn’t trying to impose New Age point of view, what so ever. I’m just saying that girl’s role in this worlds doesn’t start when she gets married as some of us aren’t called to that for a certain period of time. That’s what I meant :D

      Please do share your inputs whenever you feel it’s right :))

      God bless you too!

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        Ines

        February 19, 2015

        And, thank you for the “photo” comment :)

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